Girls follow your heart but really honestly with out a doubt listen to those instincts, gut feelings, little voices inside you that tell you the truth even when you are sure logic is saying otherwise.
"If you have to ask the questions then you already know the answers"
See the opposite sex is a master at making everything sound logical.....we girls can make everything sound emotional ..it doesn't matter if its a proven math equation, a receipt or instructions for a IKEA chair the minute it comes out of our mouths in our own words it no longer is anything but emotion.
And men can take the same instructions and put a solid defence why step 6 should come before step 2. .... listen to them, listen to your heart, read the instructions but sensor with your gut. If your gut says 2 comes before 6 then go figure its probably right.
so on my travels I have come across a few types of guys..
There is the player who listen to no-one but his water stick and which way its pointing..up, down and to you..if its up you are his next dig, if its down your safe to know that he won't be digging for a prize anytime in the next minute.
There is the player who plays a big game, knows every trick in the book, he watches, talks big, chases many and forgets your name but when stuck in a dark corner with no other players listening has some moral strength.
There is the quite guy in the corner now this guy can also be the creepy guy or the shy guy or the guy who just figures good things come who wait. It takes some good observation to figure out which he is but girls your gut will tell you right away... don't let silly things like logic and emotional kindness add their two cents.....stick with your gut!!
Now the true player will have a *friend card* watch out for this guy, he is a sly one, knows his prey well and sneaks in when your not paying attention. There are a few options for this player as he could come at you with straight on being *honest* or just always be there for the fix it make you feel better moments. Your gut will tell you right away when someone has converted friend to play with all your other instincts screaming at you RUN and all your emotions will be screaming **ah this is perfect* all the male logic around will be explaining how this makes great sense....wrong wrong wrong..if your friend decided on this approach then don't wait for the duck to start quacking...if its a feathered bird with web feet that walks like a duck then just don't wait for it to quack..its a duck and do just that DUCK!!
The thing to remember is all guys have these games and they will play which ever game they can use to hold your attention with the best outcome for them......like all good sport hunters they pick out the plays, tools and style at first approach....immediately...as they get better hunting skills they get better at their plays.
I respect the game even encourage the game because well ladies lets be honest we want to see all the tricks and all the plays before we make any big plans...Its a good game its called courtship but its wise to say it shouldn't have you sitting in court.
BUT some how we have heard far to many profess that *I can change him* give me a break I have lived long enough and done my fair share of *changing* *growing* and *trying to change* to let you even think for a minute that anyone is going to change into exactly what you want them to be.......and if there is any changing to do its probably a long long multiple year battle for them and everyone else around them.....just ask my B.F. all about that; long long time for this gal to do any changing.....If by the stroke of luck you have been apprivy to some absolute root of the core changes its because that person was already well on their way to having those desires and qualities. Check their path behind them;see who got to be in the path of distruction all those days of struggle.....Be certain this change that actually holds and sticks with them for life had to be with-in them, all about them and only for them; not for God, not for you(crushing I know but you can only do so much) and certainly not for a little bit of muffin....those reasons promote temperary changes the first babysets of the long long path towards core desires and qualities...
Its wise to say; If you don't like what you see this very second then keep moving because *you can't change it, fix it or love it to any better of bread then it is right now ... If you like this bread just as it is then stay put but don't be upset if it never sweetens.
Check it for certain gut says it all....
